Young Bulls on the Grass!

[DeanMember]

Hi guys hope some of you lot can give me some advice?

Yong fella is a top kid he’s 17 just finished his HSC with above average marks
He likes riding his old Husky 250 2 stroke when he can playing Bass Guitar going to the beach and probably spending too much time on the X-box. Typical teenager I guess.
A couple of weeks ago I found a Bong in his room :angry: I was very disappointed to say the least as I have been grooming him to become an officer in the Navy! I gave him a serious talking to letting him know in no uncertain terms how dissappointed I was and how if he has an accident in his car with dope in his system he could wind up in some serious shit. I even threatened him that I would take the keys off him if I caught him again.
well guess what? his Grand Mother is over here from NZ and was cleaning out his room and finds another Bloody Bong!as well as a little bag of dope and lighters etc.
Now I was no Angel when I was his age as well,remember I come from Kempsey :laugh: and I do know what its like to be stoned and knocking about with your mates.I havnt touched the stuff for a fair few years now but have some seriously good mates that do
I just want the best for the boy and for him to get a job and be responsible and enjoy his life with all his future toys and stuff. Am I looking into this to far? any advice would be really appreciated.

Ollie

[Adrian LeeMember]

I dont think i know anyone that hasnt tried it at some stage of thier life ollie,you can only

hope that its a phase and he gets over it.I dont believe that there is any way you can stop him.

[Adam RodgersMember]

Just introduce him to some of your old buddies that used a little more than they should have. My 17 year old has met a couple of my old aquaintences from my past and wondered how they ended up how they did. They same old story, everything in moderation. Too much of a good thing usually is no good.

Adam.

[MalMember]

Mmmmmm tough one Ollie. I don’t think threatening to take the keys off him would make any difference.

Maybe sit him down and explain to him that he is at an age now where he has to start making life decisions for himself. If he is dead set keen to follow dad into the Navy then he has to comit to that and work hard for it. I assume it’s not to easy to get into the Navy. Maybe he thinks you are pushing him to hard to go that way.

Is he smoking heaps or just a casual puff on the weekends with mates? Niether is a good thing but like you said maybe you’re looking to far into it.

Have a mate to mate chat with him not a father to son chat. I used to laugh at my dad wen he tried that.

Just my thoughts mate. Good luck.

[GregMember]

I have looked at this since you posted Ollie thinking my boys have to go through all this shit with them yet and have been to scared to post

I think Mal is on the money I think. We all did stuff we were young, some grew up and some didnt.

Good luck mate, I respect your post very much

TB

[Nick JacksonMember]

Hi Ollie,

My parents were very strict when it comes to drugs and made their thoughts clear. I still tried most things , but was always worried about their disappointment if they found out. As a result I had a puff with mates and limited other things and in hind sight think their approach was good.

I had friends whose parents didn’t care and these guys really got into it , so I think your initial reaction was perfect , if he knows your dissapointed then although he may still try it he won’t feel as comfortable and probably get over it.

It’s a hard call mate and it’s one place we’ve all been and now have to guide our kids through, I’m sure you’ll make the right decision.

Best of luck

[dennis da menaceMember]

put him in a uniform and send him to Garden Island Ollie, then he will be safe from all that shit :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

unless he is a backpacker

now thats a bad joke but it shows how rife it is today. drugs are everywhere. i think your Boy is at a very delicate stage in life and will need coaxing through mate. i was there once and didnt have the support.
maybe i would have turned out different, better, worse, who knows. :laugh:

guidance from a mate is what he needs Ollie.

seriously, talk to him.

man to man.

as a friend, not a father.

its a pinnacle moment for him.

[DeanMember]

Thanks Guys to all who have posted their ideas and PM’s as well. I have had a mate to mate chat and hopefully we can sort it out, If not I will shoot him :laugh: joking!!

thanks everyone keep em coming as im sure there is others out there in the same situation,

Ollie

[Aaron WildeMember]

Yeah I have been that kid as a lot of us have. There is a saying. Kids don’t always do what you say but they often do what you do. If he respects you he will care about your disapproval. Most of the time it will be the friends he hangs around. Remove him from that environment and influence and it will probably stop. But that poses just as big a dilemma as the original issue. He sound like a good kid and it is just a phase. A bit of interesting timing with the drug issues the Navy is having at the moment.

[Mark DrinkwalterMember]

If all else fails Ollie, give him to me for 12 hours.

We’ll sort the wheat from the chaff and see which side of the line his heart lies. I wont water board him, but other than that its don’t ask don’t tell.

I have three girls from 4 to 10 and my re-occurring nightmare is the world they are growing up in. We may have all dabbled in some sh!t from time to time, but with this generation it all seems more serious and more perilous.

When our first was born, I has a list a mile long… now I just want them to get through Uni and not pregnant. All the rest I’ll deal with day to day.

Respect for caring enough,
Rudy

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